Self awareness can help.
Being self aware is about taking the time to develop emotional intelligence - the ability to listen and interpret to your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and not cast judgement over what you see. Here lies a key distinction in the practice of self awareness. It's one thing to be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and it is another entirely to cast judgement and beat yourself up when you find something you don’t like. To practice self awareness is to be an observer, not an activist. To sit in a quiet corner and watch the world pass by, taking notes and generating ideas.
The easiest way to practice the art of self awareness, is to make time to do it.
Put the list down
It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day rat race, keeping busy because that’s what life demands. The “to-do” list looms in your diary, and commitments with family, friends, and work seem to be never ending. Just when you feel you’re getting on top of it, there’s more to do. Why is this the case? How come there never seems to be time just for you?
Make 'you' a priority
Just like anything else, ‘you time’ needs to be given as much priority as any other commitment you have. The default strategy that most of us have is to hide lack of progress with progress. If you’re reading this book, it’s likely you’re looking for something more in life, and for whatever reason you haven’t found it. This can lead to frustration, anger, and pain at yourself for not coming up with an answer. Since progress isn’t being made in this area of your life, then it’s easier (and less painful) if you turn to other areas which you can make progress, and create ‘little wins’ that give your confidence a boost. These ‘little wins’ turn into a feel-good drug which keeps you coming back for more. What seems like progress is in fact procrastination from the real issue - your dreams. Thus, the ‘keeping busy’ cycle is fueled and continues to operate, often from your own doing, not by others!
Break free from the busy
To become more self-aware, the ‘busy’ cycle must be broken with time for you. Start with 30 minutes a day, increasing if you feel the need. If this means getting out of bed 30 minutes earlier, then make the sacrifice. Think of it as time invested in a successful, happy future of your dreams. Get up, get moving, and give yourself the loving you deserve. Try going for a walk with your favourite music or listen to podcasts, meditate, write in a journal, run around the block, paint your nails - whatever it is that you feel you’ve been missing out on.
Open mind, open heart
Self awareness is essential for determining your success. Until you realise your goals, dreams, and aspirations, it's likely that you're following someones elses version of success instead. Start by creating time. The time you create will lead to a shift in your mindset, and will allow you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and emotions in a more relaxed state, ultimately releasing the true person within - the spirit from the heart.